- Letter: Of giving good Counsel.
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Of giving good Counsel.
You may in the first place excuse your rash intrusion, in giving counsel before it be required, but the bonds of freindship were so strong that you could not forbear, and therefore hoped she would take all in good part; and then inculcate this, that you did not doubt the sufficiency of her judgment, but being tender of her welfare and knowing of what weighty concern the business in hand imported, that it was not for a year | | 221 or a day, but for life, you could do no less, being full fraught with a most entire affection, but tell her, she must consider - then tell her what your advice is, and be sure you back it with the best reasons and arguments you can summon together; making it appear, that your counsel is both honest and profitable, and not self-interested; and it only tends to her lasting good here, and eternal hereafter; husbanding your reasons according to the person you deal with. Conclude with an hearty ejaculation to God, that he may direct her for the best, following the good advice you have given, etc.
If you are a Mother of Children, and would write to them, or to your Servant, you need not have rules in so doing, the plainer you write, the better it is and they will more readily understand you; you need no more than signifie to them what you wuold have done, and what undone; as for reasons, you need not alledg any to encourage them in their duty, your power is sufficient, and your command is the only reason why they should do so, or so; however, if you see any refractoriness in your Children, it will not be amiss, to urge how just your commands are, and how easily performed, adding the promise of a reward, if they fulfil your desire; but threats and menaces of punishment, if they disobey; but concluding, you hope to find them so towardly, that they will not need correction.